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Difficult People!

SECRETS TO DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE!

They are everywhere you go: At work, in the family, among friends. They are difficult, annoying, irritating people. The fact is, they are playing their part PERFECTLY by allowing you to figure out how to deal with them!

Here are some tried-and-true techniques that seem absolutely magical in their effectiveness, but they really come down to shifting the ENERGY of strained relationships.

First, before you ever come into the same room with a difficult person, mentally talk to their soul by saying, "The Divine in me salutes the Divine in you." (Or, "The Christ in me salutes the Christ in you." Or, "My higher self salutes your higher self." It all works.) Repeat this mental mantra when you are in their presence as often as you wish. Their SOUL gets the message, and the vibration between you alters in a very significant and pleasant way.

Next, when you are in the presence of a negative, difficult person, draw an X on a piece of paper and cross your ankles. These simple acts draw the left and right sides of your brain together so that you can "think on your feet"! This technique is from the latest in brain research.

Now, place the tip of your tongue on that little web of skin behind your two front teeth - that spot you have burned when eating pizza. Apply a little bit of pressure. Instantly, you will begin to feel better! The reason is that a substance gets released into you system when you apply that pressure that instantly calms you down and even strengthens your immunity!

When you are by yourself and feel the need to calm down, find the little "V" in your neck, move down about 1/2 inch, and tap vigorously about 33 times. The same sense of well being will permeate you, and for the same reason. You will have activated the thymus gland, which will send a miraculous substance through your system that calms you down and strengthens your immunity.

Dr. Diamond wrote a book back in the l970's called, "Your Body Doesn't Lie", and it is all about the thymus gland and what it can do for you. His book pre-dates all the current work called Emotional Freedom Technique, and I have been doing the thymus thump intuitively since I was three years old! It works on every emotion every single time, too!

You can have a lot of fun with these techniques during meditations as well. Just activate the X, do the thymus thump, and add in chanting or visualization or both! If you rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being extreme discomfort and 1 being utter calm, then activate the X and do the thymus thump, and rate yourself again, you will be amazed at the shift in your numbers!

Here are some testimonials from people who have tried these techniques in everything from test taking to confrontations to job interviews:

"My boss has calmed down, is no longer insisting that I transfer, and is even helping me to find a new position! It's a miracle!"

"My Foreman got off my back today for the first time since I started working here!"

"I drew the X on a piece of paper, crossed my ankles, did the thymus thump, and aced my board exams!"

"I've been doing the thymus thump intuitively since I was a little girl and was so surprised to find out it is based in science! It works every single time!"

Make the X and the thymus thump the cornerstones of your stress-management arsenal!

Here is another great technique that works in all sorts of situations:

The Big, Easy Secret

When you have a difficult person, put yourself into UPEKSA - the Buddhist state of DELIBERATE, DETACHED OBSERVATION. You do not react or get lured into useless sparring, you simply observe without engaging. You allow your difficult person to tire of their story. Then, you can offer solutions for a mutual win-win. If not, catch and release!

UPEKSA allows me to practice one of my favorite fortune cookies: "The tongue weighs practically nothing, yet few are able to hold it!"

For more information on the art and science of "tapping", please visit my "Fav. Links/Affiliates" page at the left, scroll down the page, and choose the link under EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE. You will be amazed at how free you can be! The thymus thump will be your mainstay, however, and you now know how to do it!

Finally, here are some well-chosen words you might adapt when you are ready to stop responding to badgering from family members who drive you crazy.

This was submitted by a favorite person of mine who simply asked me to change the names of these three dueling sisters. "They" want "her" to apologize for things she doesn't even know she did. Here, Tiffany asks forgiveness for something SHE said, but her true agenda is that Trudy should say SHE is sorry for whatever things SHE supposedly said. You get the idea, and you've probably heard it all before. Trudy is now ready to engage in Upeksa and hit the DELETE button on any future useless, negative activity. You can do the same thing!

Tiffany,

I appreciate your message, but to imaging that there is anything to forgive you for is the small error in your comment.

Long ago I realized that you were going to be more friendly with either Tracy or I at any one time, but it was never going to be both of us at once. Think back and be reminded that this has been the case since we were all very young. I have known for years that Tracy is your choice for that position.

I have nothing to forgive you for because I hold no ill will toward you. I accept your actions and supposed feelings toward me as a fact and attach no emotion to that. There is not a negative thought in my head toward you or your family.

To fill one's heart and mind with the negative leaves no room for Love. I think there is a law that states that two opposing things can not occupy the same space at the same time.

You have questioned my ability to "be happy and so mean at the same time". If anyone believes that I am mean, then that is their choice, but no one can question my happiness. My life is full of friends and laughter and joy in nearly all moments and that is my choice. I continually try to show generosity, love, and gratefulness for the great abundance that God has offered me in this life.

Just because someone may not agree with me or think I am not nice doesn't mean I dislike them, it just means we have a different view and I respect that.

Responding to negativity validates it's existence. Silence to negativity doesn't extinguish it's existence, but does keep from fueling it to grow bigger.

Some may believe that there is a single way to speak and learn about God and His ways, but my belief is that God is in each moment, all colors, every sound, and all of our actions and thoughts. I really do try to do and be my best in any moment. I know that everyone else does too, but I have learned that some may not view the effort in the same light. Trying our best and learning to always strive to be better really is the only path, isn't it?

Here is one of my old favorites........"Arguing really means if you were more like me I could like you better".

I am more than pleased that you have found a path that offers some peace and Divine Guidance, and I wish nothing but the best for you and your family.

Trudy

You do NOT have to tolerate toxic people in your life, whomever they may be. There comes a time when "enough is enough". You don't have to explain yourself either, just withdraw and mean it!

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